Age doesn’t define our time, but rather the people we share it with.
While we may claim that certain moments in life are unchangeable, the truth is that we can still make changes. We have the power to transform ourselves and our relationships with everything and everyone around us. Before doing anything that might break someone else’s emotions, let’s ask ourselves how it would feel if someone did the same to us. Everything passes through us, leaving scars that time may heal or not. But there’s one scar we should never let go of – love. Age doesn’t define our time, but rather the people we share it with. We change spaces, travel above clouds, create albums of memories – but one memory is never forgotten: the one when someone embraces us with the voice of love. What stays forever beneath our skin are their touches. Changing ourselves is not easy, but it can be incredibly rewarding. Because, in the end, everything becomes futile if we realize that we were only a label or a beggar for someone’s love. Here, everything is, more or less, an oxymoron. Such are our confessions.
Here are a few more pieces of advice that may not necessarily be implemented, but it’s worth reading and contemplating them so that we don’t regret missing the opportunity to awaken the dormant person within us.
What is the secret to looking good regardless of age? A magical potion or genetics?
Self-esteem is the magical potion. If genetics are on your side, then you’ve hit the jackpot. Genetics alone wouldn’t be enough for good looks. If you’ve lost your self-esteem, regain it with self-love. Loving yourself means believing in your choices and navigating through life with them. Those who love themselves also respect themselves.
Can a marriage ‘survive’ the consequences of infidelity?
Love plays a crucial role here. If someone has made a mistake and cannot rectify it, they don’t need to continue punishing themselves or others for it. If there is still love left, the mistake won’t be repeated. But if love has vanished, then there is always a next path. In such cases, it’s essential to close your heart to the past to make room for the future. Aging together is beautiful, but we should also be mindful of who we age with.
Why do some people struggle to fulfill their desires, and what hinders them?
One cannot deprive oneself of the right to have desires, but one can deprive oneself of fulfilling those desires. Having too many thoughts at once can make you feel unable to think. One thought disrupts the other. Having too many thoughts is linked to the number of desires you want to fulfill. Focus on one desire at a time, and after fulfilling one, move on to the next. This way, you align your thoughts. It’s easier to dedicate yourself to one thing at a time than trying to handle everything simultaneously. Draw a wheel, write your desires on it, and touch the circle with closed eyes. Fulfill the desire that you first read. Write realistic and sincere desires. You will remember well what you wrote. You will also wait to see if the wish comes true. It’s like your roulette, and your hand will spin the game, which you won’t call rigged, and you’ll have enough patience because you’ll be interested in the outcome.
Do our beliefs not only shape how we live but also how we solve problems?
The greatest dangers for a person are their own beliefs. Some beliefs are good, while others are blind. Blind beliefs have destroyed many lives. A bit more flexibility in thinking and experimentation in practice opens the doors to new insights. New insights become a bridge that connects knowledge and wisdom, external and internal. This is a transition to a higher level of consciousness that enables a person to turn every future problematic situation in their life into a positive outcome. Remaining confined within the walls of one’s mind without a desire to act from the soul is a reflection of great fear arising from habits. Fear that arises from within over time takes away a person’s will, changes their interests, and creates a completely different path from the one they would want to have. It starts a war within oneself and with one’s beliefs. By changing existing beliefs, you will change the pages of your life. Remember the most beautiful moments in which you truly enjoyed and were relaxed. It was precisely your beliefs at that time that caused the beauty of the moment when your life was a fairy tale, not a struggle. Your beliefs shape your life. What you think of yourself, you become.
Who took away our empathy and turned us into emotional zombies?
Nothing disappears overnight. Although we claim to possess empathy, our behavior often shows a different picture. It seems as if we don’t need it, yet it is, in fact, desired. This goes beyond paradox; it pushes the boundaries of absurdity. Our empathic communication is slowly fading away, leaving only physical acts of kindness. There’s a beautiful saying: ‘Just say a word, and my soul will heal.’ When words of empathy are spoken sincerely and selflessly, they can heal half of the sick. Whether we are facing organic or emotional crises, words act as a vaccine, leading towards healing, alongside other medical resources. Mentally content individuals instinctively approach someone who has tears in their eyes, desperation on their face, restless steps, or a panic attack, speaking from the heart, not from a manual. The soul always has prepared sentences for all human emotions. It’s like a crisis headquarters, always awake and available. Are we aware that without this ‘sacred’ trait, we create abysses from which no one will save us unless we realize that the savior is within us? We would quickly regain that saving feeling if we put ourselves in the shoes of someone bewildered by worry, terrified to death… But while we only care about ourselves and those close to us, salvation’s boundaries shift, and the abyss widens. Denying this is being an enemy to oneself and eventually becoming an enemy to others. When words cease to come from our lips, when we don’t know what to say while witnessing someone suffering, perhaps we will awaken the moment we experience the same. If, due to the absence of empathy, we have become flawed individuals, then we should write a farewell letter. Those who fear the truth have never truly lived in it. Even in this technological era, technology will never replace people.
Do interpersonal relationships become stumbling blocks if everyone were to drown each other in a spoonful of water, sell the soul for material gain, replace kindness with cruelty, pretend to be innocent and accuse the innocent without any conscience, be it publicly or anonymously?
Clearly, evolution has experienced a collapse, evident to anyone who is not afraid to censor their thoughts. We live as if in a limbo or torture chamber, and the suffering man has less and less will to invest himself in maintaining healthy interpersonal relationships. In general, we are regressing to some predatory time, and our relationships are formed accordingly. But one fine day, when it rains, we will have to reconcile with an outcome that favors the extermination of this civilization, or we will remember again that we are mere threads in this short life, greatly dependent on another’s hand, support, and assistance. Throughout history, the use of cruelty and the passage of time are merely reflections of fear, as a contented person never attacks anyone. The question is, what is missing in all of us? We lack the understanding of our purpose of existence. Living in imbalance between heaven and earth makes us behave and perceive things as unbalanced… In general, we are all on the edge of a great invisible black hole that drains our energy, and we allow it because we have draped our love for everything with a cloak of prejudice and premises. In such ‘guerrilla campaigns,’ there are no winners, only victims. Only those whose thoughts are infected with hatred and obsession can seek a way beside the road. Hope lies in the sentence: Before we speak and justify ourselves and our hidden intentions, let’s hold our breath so that we don’t lose it.
