Research reveals strategies that can enhance a couple’s sex life.
Sustaining passion in long-term relationships can be challenging. However, whether we like it or not, studies show that physical intimacy plays a vital role in defining relationship satisfaction. For instance, couples engaging in sexual activity once or more weekly report higher satisfaction in their sex life and relationship compared to those who have sex less frequently. They also handle conflicts better, displaying greater forgiveness towards their partner’s imperfections.
Improving physical intimacy is achievable when both partners communicate about it and prioritize it. So, how can we prioritize sex in a relationship? Research points to the most common strategies adopted by sexually satisfied couples.
Scheduled sexual encounters
Movies and shows often depict that the best sex happens spontaneously. While this may be true in the early stages of a relationship, it becomes an unrealistic expectation in the long run. Couples who enjoy an active, healthy sex life plan their sexual encounters and incorporate them into their schedules.
Certified sex coach and sexologist, Gigi Engle, acknowledges the challenge of finding time for sex in today’s busy lifestyle. To address this, she swears by scheduling sex. This means sitting down with your partner and marking days on the calendar for sexual intimacy.
Although scheduled sex may not sound very sexy to some, it’s not much different from planning a trip, says psychologist Nicole K. McNichols. Just like planning a trip and discussing it enhances excitement, planning sex builds anticipation, which is very erotic.
Engaging in open communication about sexual fantasies
Sexually satisfied couples are not afraid to share their fantasies. They feel comfortable admitting their fetishes or kinks and openly discussing what they want to try or what excites them.
According to sex therapist Aliyah Moore, it’s best to initiate such conversations outside the bedroom or sexual situations.
