Being single, just like being in a relationship, is both a curse and a blessing. Therefore, it is important to appreciate the advantages of the single life rather than dwell on the drawbacks, just as it is important in a relationship to seek out the good aspects rather than focus on the bad.
What are the advantages of the single life? In order to understand the advantages of the single life, you must first understand the drawbacks of being in a couple. When you’re in a relationship, your time and money are spent on cultivating the relationship. Regardless of who pays for the outings, both men and women find relationships expensive. This can be both good and bad, but if you don’t earn much, a relationship will mean almost going bankrupt. You’ll have to give up a lot of things you love in order to pay for something that isn’t nearly as interesting to you.
One advantage of being single is that you can enjoy the things you love. So, women, take advantage of this. Buy yourself a new perfume or some cosmetics. It’s an incredibly liberating experience when you can be exactly what you want to be. Men, treat yourself to good wine or new gadgets while you still can. Or save your money. Once you’re in a relationship, you’ll need it, and don’t delude yourself into thinking that you’ll spend it on something that only pleases you.
Another advantage of the single life is independence. Most often, a boyfriend and girlfriend have to agree on the activities they spend their free time on. For every plan, invitation or suggestion you receive, you’ll have to take out your phone and check with the other person. Moreover, someone will check on you afterward, asking where you were last night.
A big advantage of being single is that you are only responsible for your own behavior. Nobody will call you and ask why you spent six hours in a boring café or how you can aimlessly wander around the mall all afternoon. You can do what you want, when you want, with whomever you want, without having to justify it to anyone. You don’t need permission, there’s no guilt, no rumors, no squabbling. So enjoy the things you love, without any guilt, because there will be time for that and plenty of opportunities when you’re in a relationship.
One of the first things you’ll have to sacrifice when you’re in a relationship are outings with friends. Friends will complain that you don’t spend enough time with them, while your partner will complain that you spend too much time with them. If you’re single, that means you have time to develop key relationships and important friendships. Boyfriends and girlfriends usually come and go, but friendships last.
Another aspect of every relationship is sacrificing your own interests and well-being. Every time you enter into a relationship, you’ll exercise less, move less, go out less, and often find yourself cooped up inside four walls. Therefore, if you’re single, use the time you have to focus on your life. Take a course, read, exercise, change your eating habits – do everything in your power to become a better person. Not only will you make your life more interesting and fulfilling, but you’ll also gain something for yourself…
Being free doesn’t mean being lonely. Going out is a vital part of your life. Believe it or not, you can go on dates with people whom you don’t consider potential spouses, just to pass the time. Don’t feel guilty about it. In other words, being free means the possibility of constantly meeting new people and going out with individuals from different walks of life. You can learn a lot from people whom you would never consider as potential partners. Some of them may become your friends. It also opens up opportunities for new activities, things you’ve never even thought about.
And finally, you may not believe it, but being free is a million times less stressful than being in a serious relationship. Relationships create stress, and stress is bad for mental and physical health. It can even lead to serious disorders like depression, low self-esteem, and more. The life of a free person is relatively carefree. You can enjoy things you love, walk around the house naked, you don’t have to clean if you don’t feel like it, engage in favorite activities without worrying if your partner enjoys them too.
Of course, there is nothing wrong with being in a relationship, quite the opposite. Healthy relationships are the best gift we can give ourselves. But it is equally important to recognize when it’s better to be alone than in a relationship. And never think that being free means being alone. You are free, in a more literal sense than you can imagine, so make the most of it. After all, you are never alone if you have family, friends, and most importantly, yourself. You can only be alone if you are so frustrated that you don’t love yourself or anyone around you, and having a boyfriend or girlfriend wouldn’t help with that.
So cheer up. If you don’t have a partner, you still have plenty of things.
Free, single, and lonely
If you often find yourself feeling lonely because you are single and you want someone by your side, take comfort in knowing that if not everyone, many people feel lonely from time to time. Especially women. Married women feel lonely while they are pregnant because they carry the burden alone. Married women feel lonely while doing household chores because despite earning and working full-time, in today’s society, most household chores still fall on women. Married women feel lonely when they think about decorating the home because their husbands often don’t care much about how the home looks. Married women feel lonely when they become mothers because all the responsibility for the newborn falls on them. Married women feel lonely while their husbands go out for beer and soccer because they have lost many friendships while building their relationship and marriage, and they no longer have friends to go out with when they want to. Married women feel lonely when they watch romantic comedies because their husbands are nowhere near as romantic as the leading actor in the movie. Married women feel lonely when their husbands pay more attention to their mothers than their wives. Married women feel lonely while their husbands watch soccer. Married women feel lonely while planning their annual vacation because most husbands prefer spontaneity and dislike planning. Most women feel lonely while packing for a vacation because their husbands are not much help since they don’t have the habit of planning ahead and don’t know what to pack. Married women feel lonely when their husbands are on business trips… and so on. And all of the above are women from relatively happy marriages, where their husbands don’t cheat, they have children, and they live without major conflicts. All of them will tell you they have a happy marriage and won’t complain about their loneliness.
Occasional feelings of loneliness are completely normal, but if it leads you to the decision of settling down with the next person who comes along, then you need to make an effort to overcome the feeling of loneliness so that you can seek true love rather than a remedy for loneliness. Being single should not be heavily associated with loneliness. If you experience feelings of loneliness, you need to learn how to dispel them, because if you don’t learn to overcome them on your own, no partner will be able to provide that for you. When you feel lonely, seek the company of good friends, find a new hobby, read a book you enjoy, watch whatever you want on television, spend quality time with your family, adopt a pet, or do anything your heart desires. One way to combat feelings of loneliness is through volunteering and helping others. With the help of organizations, you can easily find people who are lonelier than you and who would greatly appreciate your company. It doesn’t matter what type of volunteer work you engage in; you will feel better because you will shift your focus from the feeling of loneliness to a sense of fulfillment, knowing that you are doing something good not only for others but also for yourself.
